On a recent trip to the rabbit hole 🕳 of scrolling Facebook, I came across a post in response to a comment the original poster received on a previous post, where someone had called her ‘superficial’.
I found her rebuttal both interesting and very thought provoking.
She reasoned she wasn’t superficial because she didn’t waste her money on things like getting her hair 💇🏼♀️ and nails 💅🏻 done, as well as a few other personal services also deemed to live within the superficial category.
It’s taken me a good chunk of time to write about this simply due to the desire to suppress the verbal diarrhea rant that first occurred after reading it 😬
Now, after some organization (and edits, lol) I want to share my thoughts, but first wanted to be sure I was defining superficial as it is meant to be, so I did a quick Google!
su-per-fi-cial Adjective: not having or showing any depth of character or understanding. Similar words: surface, skin-deep
Ex. ‘Perhaps I was a superficial person’
And just to make sure I’m not choosing a convenient definition to support my cleaned up rant, there is also this definition: Existing or occurring at or on the surface. Similar words: surface, exterior, external, outer. Ex. The building suffered only superficial damage’.
I get it. Hair and nails are on the surface, visible on the exterior for all to see.
No argument there from me!
But how does a person having their hair and nails done equate to them ‘not having or showing any depth of character or understanding’ ?
Oh that’s right, IT DOESN’T!! 🙃
This is what I love (and hate) about Facebook. So many thought provoking posts made everyday with opportunities to see things from another’s point of view.
I assure you I did not don my amour and keyboard warrior 👩🏼💻 in the comments of the post. She expressed her opinion and I respected it. And then, I scrolled lol 🤷🏼♀️
Here’s the point I’m trying to make:
It’s all about what getting your hair and/or nails done means to YOU. How it makes you FEEL?
I can bet it doesn’t make you feel superficial, does it? Lol
Women choosing to look after themselves in the way that makes them feel good is not superficial. Don’t ever apologize for placing value on the way personal services make you feel. That feeling you get? The confidence, the enjoyment, the contentment?
That’s self care.
And on no planet, including earth 🌍 does choosing hair or nails mean you lack depth of character or understanding.
Are hair and nails a necessity? Nope.
They are a luxury and as such, are an easy target for negativity from those who don’t choose to place value on, or draw positive feelings from having them done.
I don’t know about you but I’m a much happier person when I put myself on my priority list. So much happier in fact that I don’t care if I’m criticized for what I choose as my self care.
You have to look yourself in the mirror everyday so do what makes you feel good 💗
And I can tell you, without a shadow of a doubt, that I felt damn good typing this out with nails so blinged out I couldn’t help but stop to admire them 💅🏻 ✨
DO YOU, AND NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR IT!
Thanks for listening,