You are SO excited!  You’ve set your mind to it and you are going all in on achieving it this year! ?

You are more committed than you’ve ever been and you know that life will be so much easier when you do it.

Curious now? Wondering what ‘it’ is??

‘It’ is…….

• Keeping a postive mindset
• Mastering a new skill that will change the way you work
• Starting a business that will give you more freedom
• Opening yourself up to dating again
• Loosing that quaratine 15 (Chapter 2) ?
• Building that website you’ve been wanting forever
• Learning to meditate
• Never raising your voice to the kids (even when those little ears simply beg for the psycho Mom voice ? )

‘It’ is interchangeable.  Basically, ‘it’ is whatever you’ve resolved you need to do to improve your life in 2021.

You’ve spent all this time thinking how it will change your life as of January 1st. Improve things drastically, be so friggin’ amazing that you’ll experience all the feels you anticipated. ??

But then, it just doesn’t work out that way ?

Maybe something goes wrong, throwing a wrench into your well thought out, carefully crafted, no fail plan and your ‘don’t take no for an answer’ attitude just…doesn’t….work.

Relatable? We’ve all done it ?

Had our hopes wrapped up in something that would solve our problems, that in reality just falls flat when we start.  

It can be devestating. It can be frustrating. It can actually have you accepting that it’s never going to happen, and ironically, most of us reach that conclusion…….at approximately this time of year LOL

Here’s what you need to know…..

The decision to do something is the easy part.  The practise of making it happen is exactly that – a practise.

Let’s say ‘It’ is actively being grateful for what you already have. You’ve read about how it does amazing things for people, changes their perspective and as a result things just start to fall into place. Word on the street is being grateful makes you a happier person, has you finding better opportunities and higher levels of success and of course you want that!

So Jan 1st……it is on!! ?

That first day is such a rush.  The excitement of creating change does wonders for your mood.  You pay for the car behind you in the drive thru.  You wait to hold a door open for someone when you stop at the bank machine.  It’s sunny and gorgeous outside and it’s quite possibly the nicest day this winter!

Man…..have you done it or what?? Being grateful is amazeballs!! ??

You tuck yourself into bed that night and for the first time in so long you feel hopeful and excited for tomorrow.

You wake up for day 2 of your new life living the dream and you are feeling on fire! ?

No – literally – you are on fire, burning up in fact ?

BUT THAT’S OK!! You got this……you can be grateful even when you aren’t feeling your best.  Pushing through because its day 2 of your amazing new life.  You are grateful and that’s all you need!

Fast forward to day 5……and you are so damn tired.  It’s shitty and rainy outside on your way to work, some idiot just cut you off and when you finally get into the parking lot, you barely get shifted into park when you’ve got no other option but to grab your purse because you are going to be sick…..like NOW! ??

Still feeling grateful? Still feeling all the feels from making that amazing decision that will change your life?

You’re definitely feeling something, but it may be more along the lines of a teensy, tiny bit of rage ? *insert the curse word most frequently used in your car when you’re alone here*

Why can’t things just happen like you thought they would? You don’t feel better – you actually (and obviously according to the inside of your Kate Spade ?) feel worse.

So what went wrong? It’s actually far less complicated than you think!

A) You got the flu….. and B) Let’s throw it back to what I said before…..

The decision to do something is the EASY part. The practise of making it happen is exactly that, a PRACTISE!

For some reason we expect ourselves to make these monumental changes, start these big undertakings and emotionally expect the benefits NOW.

Hello failure.

Imagine an aquaintance tells you they are going to plan start speaking Chinese because it will greatly improve communication within their business.  Random I know, but just go with it ?

The next day you see this acquaintance again and they are devestated because they just can’t do it! They can’t speak Chinese ?

Well no shit, you think! ??  You have to learn it and practise it before you can expect to excel at it?!

Hmmm….so considering that….. how come you’re devestated that your new life living with gratitude is already a disaster? Don’t you have to learn and practise it before you can expect to excel at it?

Ooofff……direct hit ?? 

So get back up, dust yourself off and PRACTISE.  Everyday.  Especially on the days where you just don’t feel like ‘it’ will ever happen for you.

You CAN have ‘it’. Just start being kind to yourself and stop expecting instant results. The reward will be that much sweeter when you reach ‘it’ ?

Thanks for listening,

Carrie xo

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