Failed Resolution? Read this!

by Carrie Robinson | Feb 3, 2021 | Thoughts & Things

You are SO excited! You’ve set your mind to it and you are going all in on achieving it this year! ?

You are more committed than you’ve ever been and you know that life will be so much easier when you do it.

Curious now? Wondering what ‘it’ is??

‘It’ is…….

Keeping a postive mindset
Mastering a new skill that will change the way you work
Starting a business that will give you more freedom
Opening yourself up to dating again
Loosing that quaratine 15 (Chapter 2) ?
Building that website you’ve been wanting forever
Learning to meditate
Never raising your voice to the kids (even when those little ears simply beg for the psycho Mom voice ? )

‘It’ is interchangeable. Basically, ‘it’ is whatever you’ve resolved you need to do to improve your life in 2021.

You’ve spent all this time thinking how it will change your life as of January 1st. Improve things drastically, be so friggin’ amazing that you’ll experience all the feels you anticipated. ??

But then, it just doesn’t work out that way ?

Maybe something goes wrong, throwing a wrench into your well thought out, carefully crafted, no fail plan and your ‘don’t take no for an answer’ attitude just…doesn’t….work.

Relatable? We’ve all done it ?

Had our hopes wrapped up in something that would solve our problems, that in reality just falls flat when we start.

It can be devestating. It can be frustrating. It can actually have you accepting that it’s never going to happen, and ironically, most of us reach that conclusion…….at approximately this time of year LOL

Here’s what you need to know…..

The decision to do something is the easy part. The practise of making it happen is exactly that – a practise.

Let’s say ‘It’ is actively being grateful for what you already have. You’ve read about how it does amazing things for people, changes their perspective and as a result things just start to fall into place. Word on the street is being grateful makes you a happier person, has you finding better opportunities and higher levels of success and of course you want that!

So Jan 1st……it is on!! ?

That first day is such a rush. The excitement of creating change does wonders for your mood. You pay for the car behind you in the drive thru. You wait to hold a door open for someone when you stop at the bank machine. It’s sunny and gorgeous outside and it’s quite possibly the nicest day this winter!

Man…..have you done it or what?? Being grateful is amazeballs!! ??

You tuck yourself into bed that night and for the first time in so long you feel hopeful and excited for tomorrow.

You wake up for day 2 of your new life living the dream and you are feeling on fire! ?

No – literally – you are on fire, burning up in fact ?

BUT THAT’S OK!! You got this……you can be grateful even when you aren’t feeling your best. Pushing through because its day 2 of your amazing new life. You are grateful and that’s all you need!

Fast forward to day 5……and you are so damn tired. It’s shitty and rainy outside on your way to work, some idiot just cut you off and when you finally get into the parking lot, you barely get shifted into park when you’ve got no other option but to grab your purse because you are going to be sick…..like NOW! ??

Still feeling grateful? Still feeling all the feels from making that amazing decision that will change your life?

You’re definitely feeling something, but it may be more along the lines of a teensy, tiny bit of rage ? *insert the curse word most frequently used in your car when you’re alone here*

Why can’t things just happen like you thought they would? You don’t feel better – you actually (and obviously according to the inside of your Kate Spade ?) feel worse.

So what went wrong? It’s actually far less complicated than you think!

A) You got the flu….. and B) Let’s throw it back to what I said before…..

The decision to do something is the EASY part. The practise of making it happen is exactly that, a PRACTISE!

For some reason we expect ourselves to make these monumental changes, start these big undertakings and emotionally expect the benefits NOW.

Hello failure.

Imagine an aquaintance tells you they are going to plan start speaking Chinese because it will greatly improve communication within their business. Random I know, but just go with it ?

The next day you see this acquaintance again and they are devestated because they just can’t do it! They can’t speak Chinese ?

Well no shit, you think! ?? You have to learn it and practise it before you can expect to excel at it?!

Hmmm….so considering that….. how come you’re devestated that your new life living with gratitude is already a disaster? Don’t you have to learn and practise it before you can expect to excel at it?

Ooofff……direct hit ??

So get back up, dust yourself off and PRACTISE. Everyday. Especially on the days where you just don’t feel like ‘it’ will ever happen for you.

You CAN have ‘it’. Just start being kind to yourself and stop expecting instant results. The reward will be that much sweeter when you reach ‘it’ ?

Thanks for listening,

Carrie xo

www.cihairstudio.ca

12 New Chapters, 365 New Chances

by Carrie Robinson | Jan 6, 2020 | Thoughts & Things

Okay, so this may not be a popular opinion but I think there are also people (yes, maybe you!) that can totally relate.

I’m off the resolutions train ?. Done. Nope, not for me ??‍♀️

I’ve actually been off it for years, but here’s why:

A New Years Resolution implies a commitment of one entire year.

I know that’s not rocket science thinking, but please hear me out.

1 year. That’s 52 weeks. 365 days. Assuming you sleep 8hrs a night (haha!) that’s 16hrs/day for a grand total of 5,840 hours during the entire year that you intend to apply one (or more) resolutions too.

Is it any wonder that people get discouraged the very first time they fail to make that resolution their b*tch during the day?

That thing that can cause a hiccup? That thing that throws you off track from sticking to your resolutions? It’s called LIFE.

Life happens one second at a time. One minute at a time. That’s 60 times in a single hour that anything can happen!

The phone rings, the internet is down, your little spikes a fever, the dog throws up…..you get the point, lol. There are so many things that happen in a day that can put you off from living up to your resolution. And you want to try doing this 365 days of the year?

We are our own worst critic. Most of the time we would NEVER say the things we say to ourselves about our ‘failures’ to the people around us. It’s human nature. We are so quick to offer encouragement to others if they don’t live up to their resolution for one day, but get so incredibly down on ourselves when it happens to us.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t have goals. I’m a HUGE believer goals!! Goals are how we grow and evolve and are an absolute must when putting effort into personal and/or professional growth. Put a date on your goals. Figure out the steps you will need to take to acheive them.

What I’m suggesting is, Set your intention for each day but remember to allow for LIFE. You know that thing you are trying to improve by making those resolutions? You have to remember to LIVE it at the same time. Day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. Sometimes that means being kind to ourselves when things go wrong instead of beating ourselves up over it. There’s a brand new day coming tomorrow that should offer the exact same type of excitement you feel when it’s a new year!

Embrace the moments and resolve to live life one day at a time.

This year there are 359 more days ahead of you. I hope you enjoy each and every one. ?